Can you believe this? The morning after I launched my work and website, MagniWoman.com, I woke up sick to my stomach. Not because I had put in 200% of my mind, body, spirit in the days leading up to the launch, but because I got totally possessed by my inner vamp aka inner critic.
‘You are going to make a fool out of yourself’, ‘who do you think you are’, ‘people are going to laugh at you’, and the lowest punch of them all ‘you are not going to match up to the buzz you have created’. Yup, that’s my inner vamp even though I have always thought vamps are so cool and badass and awesome!
So, where is the inner vamp as I’m writing this? I have sent her off for a vacation. She is chilling and so am I. Lately her vacations have gotten much longer. I will tell you how I got a handle over my inner vamp, but on one condition. You will have to play along.
First, here are a few tips on how to spot* the inner vamp aka critic:
Shows up when you are about to step out of your comfort zone.
Feeds on your fears, especially the fear of failure or the oh-so-old ‘what would people say’.
Makes you feel like ________.
Her voice is not always mean and nasty. Sometimes it is really sweet and friendly as if she is your best friend.
Now it’s your turn! Amplify the voice of your inner critic. Just like a guitar connected to an amplifier. Turn up the volume. What does your inner critic say to you? Slow down for a few seconds to reflect.
My inner critic looks like a 1000-year old woman, with long silver hair, and mean eyes. What image comes to your mind when you think of your inner critic? It can be an animal or a movie character or whatever comes to you instantly? Slow down and reflect for a few seconds. It is absolutely A Ok if nothing comes to you. Try again another time.
Give your inner critic a name. Mine is called, well, inner vamp! Write your inner critic’s name on a stickie, print an image or do nothing. Use your creativity to come up with tools that grow your awareness of your inner critic and remind you to let it go.
Next time, you notice yourself being possessed by your inner critic, call out its name and tell it to ‘shut up’, or ‘don’t worry I got this’ or “poof” or whatever you want to say. I challenge you to practice noticing your inner critic and letting go each time you notice it for the next 5 days.
I invite you to share what you discover after reading this article. It might exactly be the inspiration someone out there needs.
Keep Calm and Keep Moving. Forward is the only way to go.
*Credit: Coaches Training Institute